Have you ever wished to be someone else?
The answer is: You can be whoever you wish!
One of the objectives during a coaching process is to increase the clients’ awareness towards who they are and who they want to be.
Besides hard work on oneself, I often recur to a very useful model for personal change developed by Robert Dilts.
This so-call neurological levels model includes (in order from highest to lowest): (1) identity, (2) beliefs and values, (3) capabilities, (4) behavior and (5) environment.
So the idea of this model is that certain things that happened in your childhood, makes you identify with something or dis-identify with something else.
Once you done that, you then have a group of beliefs and values that align to this identity of who you are. It is those which will motivate you to develop or not the skills that stimulate a certain behavior in a given environment.
If I am one thing, I am thereby not the other thing.
Sometimes I meet people who say “I can’t be creative and good with numbers”. People have all sort of limitations about who they are, because when they believe once they are one thing, they cant be something else.
So, how do you see yourself and who do you want to be?
